23) Be respectful of someone’s real name vs cosplay identity.
A cosplay friend of mine posted about this issue, and I wanted to make sure the word was spread, because I believe in the power of names.
Many of us in the cosplay community use pseudonyms or nicknames. Everybody does this for different reasons - for me, I was DJing under DJ Spider before I was cosplaying, so the name just stuck. It also helps me separate different aspects of my life - I’m pretty sure y’all don’t care about how heavy my flow is this month, right? My hobbies are in one bucket, and my real life is in another.
But even if you’ve been given the gift of someone’s real name, stick to their nickname while at a Con. It’s just good manners…you wouldn’t call Superman “Clark” in public, would you? But if you need more reasons, read on.
* The number of likes on a cosplayer’s fan page is *NOT* directly proportionate to the number of stalkers she might have. Whether she has 5 or 5,000, there may be someone who just needed a first name to find out who she is, where she lives, or where she works.
* It’s not limited to women. “Bitches be crazy” and all that, right? If there’s a jealous ex who hear’s you call him by his real name, there’s a level of intimacy that’s indicated by it’s use, which could cause all kinds of trouble, either for them or for you.
* The internet is a crazy place, so if you tag a cosplay photo, be sure to use their fan page if they have one. Cosplay isn’t a dirty word, but if no one at work knows you do it and suddenly a mess of Power Girl pictures show up attached to you, it can be…awkward…to have to explain why yer bewbs be all framed out in that window 0_o
* Being called by their real name can be jarring when you’re all con-happy-fun-time, and snap you out of your bubble. It’s kind of like your mom using your full name to call you inside…you know you’re in trouble, and it can kill your buzz. Don’t be that guy.
So just be respectful of someone’s cosplay persona, and don’t yell out their real name across a con floor. Call them by the character they’re portraying that day, if the persona doesn’t strike you. Once they’ve entered the halls of the con, they’ve left the real world of bills, family problems, and grocery shopping behind them, just like you.
In short: if your friend Reginald wants to be known as Ulaf of the Sparkly Ponypants at AwesomeLocal*Con, then he’s Ulaf. The end.